Love, Compassion, and Discipline

I may give away everything I have, and I may even give my body as an offering to be burned. But I gain nothing if I do not have love. 1 Corinthians 13:3.

My wife and I have been having really deep discussions late at night these past few weeks. Last night, we were discussing our children and the things we pray for and want most for them. One of the major themes of our discussion was the character we want to see develop in them. My desire as I watch my 13-month-old son grow up is that he becomes a person that his friends will trust. Someone that they can count on to be there for them. If one of Asher’s friends has a problem at school or at home or anywhere else, they would know that Asher is trustworthy and compassionate. So many kids grow up without someone they can trust. It is sad to see kids who go through life not being able to talk to their parents about things or able to talk to a teacher about issues they may be facing. My wife and I pray that Asher would be the kind of person that other kids will come to when they are having those issues. We also pray that he will be able to come to us when he has issues arise in his life. Being in youth ministry, I have seen kids who are having problems and struggling with issues, but they are afraid to go to their parents because they think they may be yelled at. We are fully aware that this journey of parenting is not easy and we are just past the starting line, but we do hope and pray that Asher will feel free to come to us because we love him. We can work out the problems through looking at the Scriptures and do it together. It pains me to see kids who hide things from their parents because they are afraid of getting the tenth degree. Love and compassion are two vital parts of discipline. Without them, you drive a wedge between the disciplinarian and the one who needs the discipline. Every mistake we make and every struggle we face is an opportunity for us to come closer to God through His love and forgiveness. We should strive to do the same for our kids, and let’s pray that our kids will be able to do the same as they have their families.